Imagine going to your closet and putting on some shorts, a t-shirt, and finishing things off with some flip-flops, then driving across town to a suit and tie meeting. What kind of attention would you attract? Or if you went to the library and screamed at the top of your lungs for an hour. No one would react positively, right? But if you were to go to a punk rock concert in your best punk rock outfit and you’d fit right in. You would meet like minded people, make friends, enjoy one another. They would trust you. This law of attraction can also be applied to your thoughts and your feelings. But most of us never take the time to think about what we’re thinking. When you start, however, you realize how you can influence the reality around you, much in the same way as the clothes you wear and the things you say out loud attracts the particular attention you seek. With this mindset, you can guide yourself into your preferred place within your love life.
No matter how you look at it, we are emotional creatures. Our emotions form the decisions we make. A woman with confidence, who reminds herself everyday of her goals and who positively focuses on what she wants will no doubt achieve. However a person who thinks to themselves, “I’ll never meet my
soulmate” will always cut their chances short. Not only will those negative vibrations attract an unsatisfactory reality, they will push away the reality you really want. If you don’t send out the call, how will anyone know you’re there in need?
Before we continue with love, consider this. Many studies have found that thoughts, which translate into feelings through our subconscious, affect our physical health. A study conducted by
Dr. Toshihiko Maruta for the
Mayo Clinic concluded that pessimistic patients tested worse than optimists in all areas of health.
A
Women’s Health Initiative study done by
Hilary A. Tindle, MD, found in women that those who had the highest score for optimism were 9% less likely to develop heart disease and 14% less likely to die from all causes.
What’s more frightening is that those with a bad attitude, such as hostility and cynicism were 16% more likely to die than anyone else. Negative thoughts away from the focus of what you want leads to stress, and stress leads to lack of sleep, which leads to poor health and poor judgment, even anger and skin ailments. Bags under your eyes are the least of your worries.
So what do you do? You need to focus on what you desire and push out all the rest. I know, I hear you say, if it’s so easy, I’d be married to the man of my dreams by now. The truth is you probably would be if you actually spent the time continuously concentrating, meditating and attracting like vibrations. Be honest, when was the last time a pessimistic thought came to your mind, such as “I only meet men who don’t want a serious relationship, what’s wrong with me?” even just for a moment? Probably not long ago. And with these thoughts I am betting that you continue to only meet men who want something casual.
The secret is to focus on the outcome, the engagement ring, the marriage and the happy kids (provided that is what you want!), you must visualize it all clearly in your mind. Never let these thoughts crumble, never doubt that you will not have these things. How you think alters how you feel and how you feel about yourself is like a mirror that attracts the one for you.
This isn’t magic. You don’t have to drive to Vegas to catch the show. The trick of this law of attraction is no trick at all. When the voice in your head repeats positive thoughts over and over, again and again, what you are doing is conditioning your subconscious. Your subconscious, then accepts the fact that this must be true, that your wish for isn’t a wish at all, but a fact, a reality. And so when your subconscious accepts this new reality, your actions change. You won’t be aware of the subtle differences in your choices and you certainly won’t be aware that you’re attracting just the right elements that will help you succeed.
Psychiatrist Srinivasan Pillay found that because the regions in our brains that involve INTENTION are very connected to regions of ACTION, “firing up those brain regions involved in intention will start to fire up your action centers.”
Pillay explains that the discovery of “mirror neurons” in the brain is a sort of evidence of the law of attraction. When you see someone do something, “the same pattern of brain activation that allows that person to do what they are doing is mirrored” in your own brain. Our actions, Pillay states, “cause similar action-representations in the brains of others” automatically. If you see someone smile, you smile. When you watch a man on a tightrope on television, you feel as if you’re on that tightrope. That is why often you will tell those around you,” Oh, I can’t watch.” The brain “sets up a simulation as though you are actually doing these things.” If you can concentrate and utilize these mirror neurons, you can greatly affect the environment around you, as things around you will start to mirror your behavior.
Pillay continues with another study that found that when viewing a set of “fearful faces,” the area of the amygdala that fear activates does indeed do so in observers “as if those people were experiencing fear themselves.” When the study made it so that people were unaware that they were viewing faces of fear, this part of the amygdala still activated. Pillay states that “we attract the fear to ourselves because we are connected to other people and their brains instantly.” If you’re afraid of approaching a man, not only will that display your lack of confidence, it will also be a subconscious signal to everything around you that they should not come forth. It is, to a degree, similar to a self-fulfilling prophecy. The man of your dreams has his own brain responses altered by your emotions, for while brains mirror the actions of others, “they can also mirror emotions.”
It’s understandable that negative thoughts can often commandeer your mind, we all experience this from time to time. They are strong and ever-present. The bitter memories of broken relationships can override a positive outlook. But that is the challenge of the law of attraction. Instead of worrying about an accident while on an airplane, think of walking out from the terminal into the arms of loved ones. Instead of stressing about the mountain of bills, think about a specific way you can earn enough money to take care of those bills. And to find that man you want to spend the rest of your life with, picture him in detail. Picture him finding you. Picture a life together with him. Understand and believe that it’s true, it will happen. No more wanton thoughts. No more negative thinking!
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