We all know that men and women are from two
different planets but some mutual understanding is needed if they are going to
live together in harmony. Girls, you know the routine: You ask them a probing
question and they respond with an answer that sends you to the bedroom and them
to the couch. Can’t we all just get along?
The
Objective
The main issue is that many men are
unknowingly set up. Yes it’s true. We women ask certain questions not because we
want to know the answer but because we want reassurance from our partners. We
want to be assured that no matter how much we have changed, they will still
love us. That’s the bottom line.
As a man, if you’ve been with a woman for
any length of time you have fallen into this trap a time or two. Eventually you
will learn the objective albeit the hard way.
So, what’s the answer? Well, it’s not to
keep quiet. By not answering, you are viewed as hiding something. We begin to
imagine that those little wheels are turning in your brain and they are saying
that our partner doesn’t approve of us anymore.
Well, the first rule of relationships is
never trying to read each other’s minds because you will always be wrong. But,
when men clam up and women let their mind’s wonder, the entire situation heads
south very fast.
The
Solution
For all you men out there who want to avoid
the dreaded questions that all women eventually ask, here’s some advice. Answer
the question, but in the right way.
Question
1: Do these pants make me look fat?
Answer:
Stop
worrying. You look beautiful in that outfit. – You
don’t have to use those exact words; just mirror the sentiment. The reason for
the question is your spouse or partner is feeling low and in need of some
positive pep talk. And you are the one to give it to them.
Question
2: Do you still love me?
Answer:
Yes I do,
with all my heart. – Usually men just roll their
eyes and ignore this one as if their partner is acting silly. But, just like
the first question, she needs reassurance of some kind and is looking to you to
find it. It may seem like a drama episode is about to begin but you can keep
things civil by expressing your feelings about her to help boost her mood. It
may even lead to a conversation about what is really bothering her.
As women we are emotional creatures.
Knowing the feelings of our mate brings us a sense of security that we’ve
chosen well. For a man, the best way to make it through our occasional “trial
by fire” is to answer according to the reasoning behind the questions, not
logic.
“When
a man brings his wife flowers for no reason, there’s a reason.”
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