Love means…Walking a Mile in Someone Else’s Head

Have you ever wondered what it must be like to be someone else? When you look at your spouse or significant other you usually aren’t wondering this in a good way. But, learning to see things from their perspective once in a while can help you to better understand each other.

Men and women think differently. Women have known this for years but it is an actual fact. Each processes information in a dissimilar way. For instance, a woman can come into the house and see little messes everywhere that need to be picked up. The man can walk into the same house and only zero in on the clean space on the couch to sit down and kick up their feet.

It is frustrating and that tension can lead to difficulties in the relationship. But, you say, if we think differently, how can that tension be broken? The answer lies in what we are willing to do for the person we say that we are devoted to in order to understand them better.

Many times in your relationship love will be put to the test and this is one of them. A connection that moves below the superficial and the physical towards the spiritual begins with sacrifice. For once, you are going to take a look at situations from the point of view of someone else. And, you won’t be alone. Your other half can do it too.

Taking a Step Back

It is easy to blow up and yell when you come home and the house is a wreck but your partner is sitting blissfully in the middle of it all. Before any words are spoken, realize two things:

• You are tired, and 
• You are seeing things through your own eyes 

Most loving partners want to know how to please each other in their everyday life. When you don’t see eye to eye it isn’t always on purpose. It’s how we are hardwired. But, there are a few things you can try to bridge the gap.

1.Talk to your partner – Ask them what they see when they walk into the house. Many men aren’t as familiar as their female partners when it comes to household tasks. At work, they can multitask all day but at home, they need some help. Guide them by asking them to do certain things instead of thinking that they will automatically do them.

2. Be patient – It won’t be easy to get your spouse to think along the same lines as you do. It will take some gentle training on both your parts. Don’t be afraid to ask them more than once.

3. Show gratitude – When they do it right, thank them. Appreciation goes a long way in a relationship. When someone receives positive feedback, they will want to try harder and strive to please you more. This is the ultimate goal for both of you.

Want to know what your partner is thinking? Spend some time in their head and discover how they think. It could lead to a better understanding and a deeper love connection.

Love one another and you will be happy. It's as simple and as difficult as that.

- Michael Leunig

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